Twinsoul & Soulmates

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  • How to attract Love- a soulmate- and your twin-flame
  • How to deal with the PAIN when a twinflame leaves you, rejects you or hurts you?
  • How to deal with the past-lives, karma and all the reflection that happens between you?
  • How to deal with the great kundalini and sexuality between you? How to use the greatest healing tool you both got, as a twinsoul, to heal yourself and others around you with the energy you both can create in sexuality with each other?
  • How to heal old patterns, old structures, old behavior?
  • How to heal your family-karma and family-dna?
  • How to heal your youth
  • How to heal your heart
  • How to heal your old, broken relationships
  • How to grieve and still stay in the Now
  • How to deal with emotions, and put them into strength and awareness
  • How to (when alone) change your life and energy to ATTRACT your soulmate/twinsoul
  • How to completely Embrace yourself, and your light/dark aspects, to fully Love yourself. You are the one you were waiting for in the first place!
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Quote:About twinsouls/twinflames and giving a full reflection of self. Most twinsouls, have had a long period of illness, depression, healing themselves, and a spiritual awakening. They agree, at some point, to ‘ serve others’ with their light and knowledge. They also agreed, in meeting each other, for complete reflection of theirselves. (a cosmic marriage). In order, also, for reunion with their own soul, self-love and dissolvation from ego (as a human we will always have a little ego left!- It is humanly). The first fase of recognition, follows with ‘ irritation and annoying each other’- This is, because we all have parts of ego left, or ‘ unseen’ characteristics, we did’nt even knew we had, until your twin mirrors this! Even if you thought you were complete enlightened or in love with who you are…

Your twin will mirror even the deepest pains or parts in you! So watch what your twin feels, says and does… and you will either see an unseen aspect of yourself or have a mirror of what you already know! You can follow your twins mission- And learn about yours. The more you know about yourself, the more you love yourself, the more you love your twin! It is a deep and beautifull spiritual travel!!- And only for a few little of us… The ones who want to meet theirselves, will.‘ – Leda about twinsouls,



Watch Leda explain the origin of twinsouls, the process, and humanly results showing you are soulmates or twins:

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Twin Flames, also called Twin Souls, are literally the other half of our Soul. We each have only one Twin Flame, and generally after being split, the two went their separate ways, incarnating over and over to gather human experience before coming back together. Ideally, this happens in both of their LAST lifetimes on the planet so they can ASCEND together. So you probably haven’t had many lifetimes with your Twin Flame. Each Twin Soul is a COMPLETE, not half a soul. It is their task to become more whole, balancing their female and male sides, and ideally become enlightened, before reuniting with their Twin Flame.This reunion is of two complete and whole beings. All other relationships through all our lives could be said to be “practice” for the Twin Flame, the ultimate relationship. When Twin Flames get together, it is for some kind of spiritual service work. This is their primary reason for finding each other, because through their union a huge birthing of creative energy is released, to be used for their mission together. More and more Twin Flames are attempting to get together now to help the planet and humanity make a big shift forward in consciousness.

However, many of these attempts at reunion are unsuccessful because the individual people are not quite ready for the intensity of a Twin Flame union. It is more intense than any other union, and this intensity is at a soul level, not as much in the physical or even emotional bodies. This doesn’t mean that there isn’t a good attraction at those levels as well, but the strongest attraction is of spirit. This is one of the distinguishing characteristics of a Twin Soul.

‘Many people think they have met their Twin Flame because the attraction is so intense, but it is a karmic attraction, one of need or bodily desire rather than the Divine Love of Twin Flames. Your chance of meeting and staying with your Twin Flame depends on how evolved your soul is, and how much of your baggage from this and past lives you have cleared. The biggest reason Twin Flames have to separate after coming together is their individual emotional baggage. Because in the presence of your Twin Soul, there can be nothing between you, nothing blocking your closeness. This means that everything comes up for healing that you haven’t previously healed. Everything! When Twin Flames reunite, both of them experience an acceleration of their spiritual growth and awakening. They get on the fast track of learning about esoteric wisdom and experiencing other states of consciousness.

They usually haven’t been together all that often during their series of lives on the planet, and so their backgrounds may be different. Yet, there is a closeness and similarities of spirit that are almost uncanny, noticed in many ways, such as looking back at yourself when you look at your mate, and a remembering of the distant past when you first split up. Guidance is strong with these relationships, and usually one or both have a good channel for communication with Spirit. Their connection is telepathic, and hugging each other is like coming home for nourishment.

Synchronicity plays an important part in Twin Soul meetings… I like to say that synchronicity is God’s way of getting your attention. You may find similar experiences in the same time-frames before you even met,~ marriages, births, divorces, illnesses. You are a spiritual being. Your Twin Soul relationship awakens you to your true self. Manifesting your Twin Soul relationship is part of your awakening to your true self. You are a soul with a body. It is this concept that you must embrace and understand to manifest your Twin Soul relationship. It is a relationship between souls. In order to enjoy this relationship you must transition from an ego/personality/body with a soul, to a soul with a body, which is your true state of existence.

There are many roads to reach this state, you may visualize, affirm, or meditate. but until you reach your true self your Twin Soul relationship will remain just out of your reach. It is why so many are discouraged or counseled to abandon this difficult relationship. The difficulty comes because we have become complacent with living as a ego/personality, instead of the true souls we are. When we reach for the Twin Soul relationship we do so through ego/personality means and find that the relationship causes “pain, frustration, and angst.

Those are only reminders that we are a spiritual being encased in an ego driven physical form, it is not a sign that you should abandon the relationship. Instead it is a sign that it is time to begin our spiritual journey as a soul in this physical world. We are being pushed to break out of the ego/personality/ body existence and step into the true self. Meeting your Twin Soul is the alarm clock that says it is time to wake up.

What do I do now that I have found my Twin Flame / Twin Soul? 

Many of you have questions about having found your TF, now what do I do? You need to understand that this is not an ordinary relationship and it does not adhere to the ordinary rules that you use to determine whether to go or stay in a relationship.

First difference is that this relationship is the beginning of a spiritual journey. Even though it touches your emotions and may even stir your libido it is still a spiritual union. It is said that one does not meet their Twin Soul or Twin Flame until they have learned many lessons of love, loss and forgiveness through close Soul Mate relationships, that the heart is made resilient and strong through pain and loss, and must be so to face the intensity of being with the other half of their soul. Many people who have met their Twin Soul had experienced a “Dark Night of the Soul”, or a major spiritual transformation just prior to meeting, or upon meeting this soul.It’s almost as if you need to be “emptied out” emotionally, spiritually and mentally as a test of your spirit. Meeting your “other half” can be a magical, maddening experience that opens your perceptions. Some experience an opening of their psychic awareness as their heart expands in this unbounded and unconditional love. The fact is, your life will not be the same, and whether you perceive this as a gift or a curse is the challenge of your soul’s evolution. The Twin Soul connection is always a triad involving the Divine Spirit/All That Is, two people connected by soul, connected to God.

Before one can physically unite with their Twin  Soul, one must do the conscious work of healing and becoming whole within their self. Twin Soul love cannot exist in a codependent, ego-based relationship, or from a perceived “need” that the other person will make you whole. Both must often face separations while they strengthen their own connection to Spirit and find their strength and purpose on their own. Each half will find balance in their male/female, yin/yang before union.

When both halves of the Soul become strong pillars on their own, have healed and resolved karmic ties in the present life, then they can unite to fulfill their Divine purpose, but the challenges do not end. There is an intensity that can be frightening when dealing with your mirror, your weaknesses and strengths magnified, unresolved issues and wounds painfully open to push you to further healing, or cause ego to run from the relationship in fear. It’s important for Twin Souls to find their greater purpose, whether it’s a task they will accomplish together, or alone, there will be work to be done. This relationship marks the beginning of a spiritual journey in which you get to know as much about your self and your inner essence as is possible and you grow spiritually. If you think a Twin Flame relationship is strictly about having someone to “call your own” this relationship will be a shocker to you.

What happens during the relationship is that you realize that you must become a spiritual being in order to make the relationship work on a physical level. If you are not ready to begin a true spiritual journey then you are probably not ready for a Twin Flame relationship. If you are not ready to release all the things you think you know and believe about how a relationship should work, you are not ready for a Twin Flame relationship. If you are not ready to release the baggage from previous relationships and realize this is a unique and different experience, you are not ready for a Twin Flame relationship.

That said, if you are truly ready then your journey begins by looking within for that which connects you to your Twin Flame. You must first become one with your inner essence/soul. From there you will be directed on how to proceed with the manifesting of your Twin Flame relationship into the physical. Also be aware that your “ego” and your soul/inner essence can not share the same “house”. So you have some choices to make. When you have made them amazingly enough you will have taken the steps to find your Twin Flame or the steps to work out the relationship in the physical. Since souls which are the base of Twin Flame relationships do not “dangle carrots” ~ Know that if you have met your Twin Flame it is because the relationship is meant to manifest in this lifetime in the physical.

The only thing that will stop it is the choices you make. DO YOU NEED APPROVAL AND FROM WHOM? Is it more important that your friends and family approve of the decision that you make in your Twin Soul relationship? Or that the decisions that you make resonate with you and your soul? I ask that because sometimes the hardest decision we make is whether to please family and friends or ourselves. There is a fear that if we go against the majority consensus and things don’t work, they will say “I told you so” or not be supportive. How many chances to be happy or to achieve something that is really important to us are lost that way?

Are you willing to let your spiritual journey with your Twin Soul be handled that way? From where I stand it is more important that the choices I make resonate with my soul and my Twin Souls’ soul, than with any one individual or group of individuals. It is in this relationship that the majority is not always right. It is in this relationship that the majority should not rule unless it is the souls who are considered the majority. Can you hear the choices of the soul over the opinions of family and friends running through your mind? If not this would be the time I advocate clearing your mind of clutter. It would be a wise thing to release all that does not belong to your soul at this point. Because if you make a choice based on the consensus you will find that later no one “told you to give up on the relationship” they just suggested it was not “right” for you.

Sometimes the only thing not “right” for you is other people’s opinions of what is right for you. Whether it manifests or not is determined by you and your connection to the only ones who should be involved in the relationship, and that is the souls. Interpretations of events in the relationship is best sorted by your inner advisors or someone who has the experience of working with and making progress in their own Twin Flame / Twin Soul relationship.

When you are introduced to your Twin Soul / Twin Flame it is the souls way of saying it is time to begin a new spiritual journey, it may take you away from all that is familiar, that is a choice you must make. However make no mistake about the fact that it is your journey. It does not belong to your friends or your family. It belongs to you and your soul and your Twin Souls’ soul. THE RELATIONSHIP ~~ First of all – if your ego is the first thing that enters the conversation/relationship with your Twin Soul you lose. If your pride and your ego enter the conversation or the relationship it is done. Twin Flame relationships serve the purpose of elevating the participant to the highest spiritual level that can be achieved.

Thru a Twin Soul relationship you may achieve Nirvana. Problem is most people try to get there by a Twin body relationship which includes egos, pride and props. Too bad they work for your ordinary short term relationships but get nowhere fast in a Twin Soul relationship. The Twin Soul relationship is a relationship that began in the spiritual realm of the soul and is introduced to the physical realm, not to tease or to torture, but to show you what is achievable by connecting spiritually to another being.

Meeting the “other half of your soul” is generally so life changing and profound that there is NO question that you have met your Twin Soul…. you just know. Twin souls will both recognize this extraordinary bond, whether they are evolved and whole enough to acknowledge and act upon it is another thing. Meeting with your twin soul brings about an internal spiritual revolution, a deeper connection and understanding of the Divine and the Universal Oneness, this is the greatest gift of knowing your twin flame.

Twin soul love is not to be confused with an obsessive/compulsive disorder, it’s not a desire to “possess” another, but truly a challenge to love unconditionally and without expectation, to be whole and complete within yourself before joining with the other whole and complete side of your soul. The longing and desire to be with your twin soul is intense, but through growth and perception can be seen as the greater longing to join with the Divine, and that is the true lesson, you are two halves of a much greater whole.

When you meet your twin flame, there will be no “game-playing” or manipulation, you will have the need to be transparently honest in your relationship and communication with one another. If there is karma from past lives to work out between you, it will be apparent and consciously worked out. If you or your twin soul is committed to another relationship, you will respect and honor that bond and realize the tests of unconditional love. Meeting your twin soul challenges you to grow spiritually, heal mentally, emotionally, physically, and to see beyond time, ego, and physical limitations. You will be driven with the desire to be the best manifestation of your soul on earth.

This is not a relationship of hearts and flowers, but one that will be tested in fire and will endure beyond time and space. Only in “letting go” can we be prepared to receive what is truly ours. There are some that believe the “reunion” with our twin flame is truly within, that we carry the essence of our beloved within our soul, and we are challenged to manifest that love in all we do, without attachment, without expectation, we become ONE. Because all things must be created on the spiritual/astral/higher plane before it manifests in your life, the twin soul relationship becomes a true challenge for us. Because we do not truly realize that we are creating most of the time with our thoughts, good, bad or indifferent. We begin the creation process in our lives without us being aware that we are creating.

The twin flame relationship requires us to be completely aware of the spiritual side of our lives. It cannot be addressed in the hit and miss fashion that most of our lives are treated to.. When you learn to focus on a event in the spiritual you realize that you have more control than you think over your life. The key is that spiritual focus which connects you to the soul ~ the author of your fantastic relationship ~ also the one with the inside knowledge on manifesting your life in a positive manner. It then becomes like having the KEY to the front door of the bank and the combination to the vault and the legal right to use both as you desire.Unfortunately in this exclusive relationship between twin souls, these guys, egos, pride and relationship props are not welcome. Just as thieves are not welcome in the bank vault. They have an uncanny way of destroying all that we have worked so hard for. Sometimes we just have to grit our teeth and say “yes this is really annoying” but I am going to let it pass without comment, mentally or physically. Learning to do that helps remove the events that make you feel that way. If you can’t do that, events that make you feel that way continue, for they play directly to your ego, pride and need for relationship props..

Important to remind yourself when interacting with your twin soul ~ that all you truly need to be happy is LOVE. If you have that, everything else will follow… Even the relationship coming to fruition. It is where you focus that creates what you get in life. I have found that a body to body connection in a twin soul relationship is not very fulfilling, but a soul to soul connection ~ well that rocks!! But you can only achieve that if you look to the soul/spiritual aspect of the relationship to create the physical aspect.

Can’t create it from the physical inward. That my friends don’t work either. For those of you who want to leave nothing to chance, think of it this way ~~ it is the soul’s relationship ~~ so the soul, ~~ your soul and your twin soul’s soul, ~~ will do the handling of the relationship..They know more about what is going on than the body, because it has been their relationship more lifetimes than the years you have lived in this body. It isn’t the soul’s first relationship ~ it is your first TWIN SOUL relationship.

What kind of Relationship is the Twin Flame / Twin Soul Relationship?

What kind of relationship is a twin flame / twin soul relationship? Is it a spiritual relationship or a physical relationship. Scenario: You meet the most remarkable person, there is instant bonding.. Then nothing, the other person pulls back, pull away. You keep trying to find a way to reconnect. Unfortunately all of your efforts are directed at the physical body. Are you surprised when it doesn’t work? Yes you are. Do you know why it doesn’t work? Here is where the real trouble begin..

Those who say it shouldn’t be. Those who tell you that you are obsessing and those who have absolutely no clue but are full of suggestions. Well here is a very simple answer. The original moments, days weeks or even months of bonding was caused by a simple soul to soul connection. This connection is really what the relationship is all about. To find that wonderful bond again you must find the soul to soul connection again. Unless you have made the acquaintance of your OWN SOUL you are going to have a bit of difficulty getting to know his/her soul. It is this that makes the twin flame / twin soul relationship difficult for many.

It requires you to focus on your spiritual well being in order to manifest the physical, spiritual bonding that brought you so much joy. Are you willing to do the work and get to know your own soul so you can have the relationship of your dreams? That is what makes a twin flame / twin soul relationship both special and difficult.. It forces you to be the BEST being you can be, and that requires you to get to know your soul and its true purpose ~~ usually a purpose that you share with your twin flame / twin soul. It really and truly is a SOUL-BASED relationship. DIFFICULTIES ~ WHAT DO THEY MEAN? I have been asked many times why is it so difficult to make the relationship work. Perhaps it is the nature of the relationship that makes it difficult. It is a spiritual based union in a world that does everything in accordance with physical needs and desires.

Many relationships are chosen based on some physical formula. Perhaps the person you are attracted to fits a perceived “need” that you have in your life, but what happens when the “need” is fulfilled do you continue the relationship? Move to another relationship to fill another perceived “need”? With a spiritual based relationship it is the souls visualization and desires that are being met. Fortunately the souls have a COMPLETE AWARENESS of all that is waiting for you and what you need to get there. The relationship becomes difficult when you try to force it to follow the path of your perceived “need” of the moment. When we focus on what we “need” and “want” instead of creating a situation to cover those needs and wants we create a reality of needing and wanting.

Now usually soul awareness and ability to provide what you need out class what you think you need by a country mile. You are insisting on physical communication and therefore you blow up the persons cell phone and e-mail !! ~~ But the communication between the souls is a continuous calm communication that need NO physical equipment, and you the physical body can take part in that communication process with better success than you have with modern technology. It only requires you to FOCUS on your OWN SOUL AND YOUR TWIN SOUL’S SOUL to begin the communication process. Amazing there is NO time when he/she will not respond to your call. Recently I “planned” a move.

It would bring me to an important place in my spiritual journey and closer to someone important to me. Interestingly enough from the moment I accepted the directions from soul to proceed, chaos stepped in with a series of set backs that would in normal circumstances have stopped the progress cold. I believed that my souls visualization for me was accurate. She had shown me that what I should have to continue my spiritual journey awaited me. Based on that, I trusted that if she could perceive this and show me where I need to be, she could also provide me with the means to be there. Despite the set backs and the continuous financial drains I forged ahead. On several occasions it seems the best choice would have been to just give up as the situation became more problematic. I am happy to say I arrived at my destination and all is as she promised.

Better than I expected, and proceeding as my soul visualized it. All that I can say is what my soul visualized and desired for me is much better than what I could physically bring forth. There is nothing wrong with my ability to manifest, just the difference in what my soul is able to visualize and I am able to perceive. When I accept what my soul visualized for me, all I really need is faith to see things through to the completion that my soul visualized, and to know that we are never given a dream without the ability to manifest it. The key is to have faith in your soul’s visualizations and desires for you, and in his /her ability to manifest what they have visualized, especially in a relationship that belongs to her/him..

They have an advantage of having done it many times before and having overcome the obstacles that have tried to separate them in the past. They can do it again and again the only time they are unable to move a situation to it’s true outcome is when you put your fears and your doubts in the way and add your perceived “needs” to the list of other obstacles. It is easy to overcome outside interference but hard to battle your self. The difference between what we think we need is that we are focused on that need and the rest of the picture go unseen we forget what we have been shown. We forget the souls power to manifest through us what it has visualized for us. If you feel that things are not going as they should then step back and refocus your energy to “what my soul visualize and desire for my life is mine now”.

Once you do that watch the picture unfold and the events move rapidly into the proper sequence that will bring you what you desire. If you move a few steps forward and then take over the controls again and slip back into your “needs” and Wants don’t be shocked when things fall apart again. That is just the nature of the situation and it is what makes the relationships so difficult. It is the tools that you apply and if the job needs soul to be completed and you shut soul out because you have hit a bump in the road then the bump becomes a mountain. If you continue your path hand in hand with soul to complete his/her relationship the bumps are just that bumps.

There is NO situation in a twin flame relationship that the souls involved can not overcome, except the bodies shutting them out and taking the reins in their own hands. This applies to any spiritual path and any place you are on that path. All is never lost unless the bodies perception overrides the souls awareness and knowledge. I find that many people who are involved with their Twin Flames / Twin Souls grow “tired” of the roller coaster ride that the relationship sometimes takes. They abandon it long before they understand why it is a roller coaster ride.On many levels they know the relationship is different ~~ it ZINGS them in the heart and the soul. But past that they expect it to take the same pattern and shape as every other relationship they have had. What would be the purpose of that? A twin flame / twin soul relationship requires us to dig deep within our inner being and bring forth the very soul from which this relationship was created. If we refuse to do that then the roller coaster ride becomes unbearable. This is when we begin to seek an easier relationship.

One that does not require so much of us. That is okay if it is truly what you want. To me it is the difference between a salt less saltine cracker and a Ritz cracker. Yes your palate may be happy with the blandness for a short while, but for a life time? Even though the relationship does not require as much of us. Does it give us what we need? Or does comfortable bland become uncomfortable nothing. At which point we reverse engines and try to put passion, emotions and fire into the relationship.Either way you are going to work at the relationship unfortunately putting fire and passion into something that had none in the beginning may prove to be harder than learning how to manage the roller coaster ride which does mellow out but never becomes stagnant.

Why Twin Flames Run?

There are many important reasons why many Twin Flame souls go through a time of physical separation from each other. This is something that is driven primarily by the soul and not necessarily the individual. Even though it may appear that one or perhaps both twin souls are denying/pushing away/running from the connection, really it is because the SOUL is not ready. The soul dictates when reunion will occur, therefore until the soul has decided it’s time, then no amount of trying to force yourselves to be together before that time will work.

Perhaps a major block of whether the soul is ready to unite or not is the emphasis you are putting on the Twinflame soul connection and reunion. Perhaps looking at it as primarily about coming together in a traditional romantic way is putting limitations on this and that is why you are not ready to unite.

But this physical separation occurs primarily to “wake us up”. All preconceptions about the connection will need to be looked at and if the twinflame souls have any false ideas about what the connection “should be” and are not accepting it for what it really is, then they will need to continue on in physical separation until they are aware of the true realtiy of this soul connection.

Also, a main reason why we are physically separated from our twin flame soul is to learn to love ourselves as much as we love our Twin Flame soul, unconditionally. But firstly we need to look past the ego that contains all the “shoulds” and expectations, the conditions. Mostly what we blame our twinflames souls for is really what we are blaming ourselves for on a subconscious level. There are parts of ourselves we may be rejecting, denying, scolding, punishing ourselves for.

To try and ignore this pain, we put the focus on our twin flame soul not giving us something which would make us happy. But really we need to realise it is OURSELVES not giving us what we need for happiness and fuliflment. Until we realise this and act upon our needs for happiness and self-love, the problem will continue to manifest itself between the twinflames souls as the mirror it back to each other. – Read more here:

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