Spiritual process in Relationships- The stages

When we talk about relationships, first we’d like to say that we’re not talking
only about the love/mate relationship but about relationships with your family,
your children, your mothers, your fathers, your friends, your co-workers. We’re
talking about the actual interactive process between humans. We may at times
structure what we’re saying as if we’re talking about a love relation-ship. That
is for convenience only. What we are saying is applicable in every relationship
in your life.
First we will talk about the nature of the change your planet is going through
at this time. We reference the change as the transformation from third to fourth
density. Third density represents a vibrational reality or a state of mind that
your planet has been expressing for several thousand years. The basis of this
third-density expression is the idea of separation, which is the idea of not
looking at reality holistically, but looking at it in part, seeing each other as
separate, seeing the parts of yourselves as separate. Because of that idea of
separation, you also view your connection to God as separate – “someone up
there,” an authority who can dictate your life – who’s not you. This is a
natural process of human evolution through which you will grow and evolve into
the next stage which is where you are at now.
You are moving now into a fourth-density reality. Fourth density is
characterized by reintegration. This means that you begin dissolving the
boundaries, whether they are symbolic or literal, and that as those boundaries
begin to dissolve you begin to see reality holistically, as if it’s one big
machine entirely supportive of itself. You’re also going to find that your
points of view about God are different. Instead of seeing Him as existing up
there and dictating to you, you see yourself as a part of that creation equal to
every other part as a total, perfectly working system. You are moving now into
this realm of integration.
There are two models of relationships we’ll speak about. One is a third-density
model and another is a fourth-density model. Do not think that we are saying one
is better than the other, because that is not so. It is simply a choice.
However, we will outline these models so that you can recognize where your
choices are based. If you want to change those choices, this will make it little
clearer. So first we will talk about the third-density model.
Since third density is based on separation, then the foundation laid in third
density for relationships will be that of separation. Thus one of the key ideas
inherent in it is secrecy. We will define this: If you are in a love affair, it
is not telling your partner you’re having an affair. That’s a blatant example.
However, secrecy is also withholding your true feelings from another person. If
something someone said made you angry, or if you see how a person can grow, and
you don’t want to tell either of them, that’s secrecy. It cannot exist in
fourth-density reality.
In fourth-density reality the polar opposite is honesty – lOO% of the time. In
fourth density you will be living the fullest expression of who you are, and
that means not withholding from anyone. Anytime you withhold your natural self
you help to construct a lie upon which the relationship is based. That
relationship is then an illusion, because you never really know your true selves
or each other.
The second key idea is that third density supports conditional love. This means
that you will extend love to someone only if they meet your needs and
expectations. You extend love to them “if…” (fill in the blank). Now, this is
not always conscious. It’s not like you can sit down and say, “Well, I didn’t
extend love today because I wanted him to ask me to marry him, and because he
didn’t, then I’m not going to give any love.” It’s not that conscious. It’s a
very deep-seated behavior pattern, and one that you are moving out of.
In moving out of that process, there can be pain as you learn the idea of
unconditional love. There doesn’t have to be pain, but there can be. The quality
of that pain is similar to sitting on your foot until it’s asleep, then standing
up and feeling the “pins and needles.” That sensation reminds you that there’s
something there to feel. In that sense, when you are learning the idea of
unconditional love, people will often choose to feel pain to remind themselves
they have a heart. We know that sounds a little bit strange to many of you, but
some people need the pain to feel they are alive, to know that they can feel, to
feel their heart. That is what frequently happens in the transition from
conditional love to unconditional love.
All of you have had moments of total unconditional love. They’ve been small
moments so that you could get a taste of it. The mass consciousness on your
planet is not yet strong enough to support that framework for an extended period
of time. But this is changing and growing every minute. It is changing much
faster than you realize, and you are all part of that changing framework by
getting more in touch with yourself and learning to love yourself.
The third key in a third density relationship is the idea of control. Many, many
people on your planet feel they have to control in order to feel their life is
in order. That means controlling their relationships, and they will use
manipulation to do so. That’s a third density technique or methodology for
relationships. Its polar opposite in fourth density is allowance. Now, you’ve
all heard that word and you can imagine it. But when you make that connection
emotionally with what it feels like to truly allow whatever happens to support
your growth without needing to control it, you will have healed an important
part of yourself.
As you are moving from third to fourth, it’s going to be as if you’ve got one
foot in each, and you may waver back and forth. Do not judge yourself, do not
chastise yourself for doing that. It’s part of the natural plan. Some of you are
too hard on yourselves, saying, “Well, I can’t be spiritual if I’m feeling
this.” It is often important: that you do feel, so that you can open your heart,
so that you can remember your heart’s there, so that you can train it to feel
the things you will be feeling — the ecstasy of the fourth density. You have to
open it to feel it.
This is a package deal. For instance, if you are keeping a secret from your
friend or your lover and you’re attempting to build a fourth-density
relationship of unconditional love, it’s not going to work. When you choose
something from the third density category, you get the package of the third
density relationship. And that’s quite all right if that’s what you want. Just
let it be a conscious choice.
Many of you are confused because you’re choosing the third- density list and
expecting fourth-density results. You can’t have both. You must be conscious of
what you want — third or fourth. Make a choice from a place of consciousness
and be aware of what experience you will have because of your choice. If you
choose secrecy, you choose everything that comes along with it. If you choose
honesty, you choose everything that comes along with that. It can work in your
favor. More than anything else, let your choices about your relationships be
lOO% conscious. It may entail some very deep soul-searching for many of you, and
you may find that some of the relationships you had in the past no longer serve
you, and you will have to do something about it. That’s very painful for a lot
of people. But you either stand still, go backward or go for tomorrow. Once you
attain a certain level of consciousness, it’s very difficult to go backward into
the darkness. You must continue to move forward, and in that moving, many
challenges await you, but there are also many joys, many freedoms.
People may feel very threatened about the idea of giving up control. However,
many of you have experienced “letting go and letting God,” as you say it. There
is a tremendous freedom, a liberation in that experience. We’re not saying to
let go and let someone else do it for you; we’re saying to let go of your need
to consciously control it, to let your natural path unfold and then interact
with that natural path. That is the path of free- dom, the path you are all
moving toward.
The challenges are mostly in the next 20 years. For some of you who choose to be
ground-breakers in this, the challenge is in the next five years. So fasten your
seat belt and get ready for a pretty wild ride. But recognize at the same time
that you are the driver as well as the passenger, and you can guide the car in
the direction you want to go. And you don’t have to go any faster than is
comfortable for you. But do understand consciously the choices you make about
We are going to tell you a little story about John and Mary. Mary is afraid of
heights. When Mary came into this life, her soul said, “I want to heal this fear
of heights.” Let’s say she gets to adulthood and she still hasn’t healed it.
Then she marries John. Now, John continually protects Mary from her fear. Every
time they drive a steep road he has her close her eyes. Whenever they walk on a
steep path, he walks between her and the cliff. He never ever lets her confront
the very thing that she came here to do. This is a pattern that happens between
many people, where they take responsibility for another person’s emotions and
Let’s say you have a friend who is an alcoholic, who drinks far too much. You
love him very much and want to tell him that you think he’s an alcoholic. You
are faced with several differ- ent things here: You don’t want to stir up
trouble for him; you don’t want him to feel pain – so you don’t say anything.
That’s very common. On the other hand, you could march right up and tell him
what you think. If you feel responsibility for the feelings of that other
person, if you never tell him about what he’s come here to change, you enable
him to continue this pattern. If, however, you are your natural self and in your
excitement you express yourself to this person because you care about him, you
actually then allow him to look at himself in the mirror of you and heal the
very thing he has come to this planet to do.
If we were to advise you to stop doing anything, we would say, stop protecting
each other from their emotions. If these emotions are not confronted, you will
always keep yourselves separate from one another. You will always be walking on
eggshells around each other. You are all in this together, and as your hearts
are opening up you’re going to start feeling that connection. And as you feel
that connection you’re going to want to share with another person. If you
withhold out of fear of hurting them, you never really give them your love,
moving into fourth density is about your giving love, learning to give and
receive love, learning to become a holistic unit, learning to dissolve the
barriers between each other. Secrecy will keep the barriers intact; honesty will
bring you all together and help to create the world that so many of you have
been envisioning.
So make your choices. Think about the people you love and care about, and think
about the things that you’re not telling them because you don’t want to hurt
them or because you fear their anger or you fear they will withhold their love
from you. Then imagine what it would be like to tell them those things and watch
them grow before your eyes because of what you’ve said. Ultimately, that will be
what happens, whether it happens quickly or slowly. You will aim the mirror that
you are in their direction, and they will be able to clearly see their
reflection if they choose. They may choose not to see it; that’s their business.
You’ve all learned that you are reflections for each other, but many of you keep
your mirror slight askew; you never really reflect any light in another person’s
direction, so they can’t see their reflection. When you squarely position
yourself as a mirror objectively, with no judgment and allow a friend to see her
own reflection, she has the choice of moving forward. That choice in and of
itself is a very empowering choice.
We’re going to talk for a moment about the idea of monogamy, a thing that pushes
many of your buttons. There are at least two different types of monogamy. One
type is fear-based. Fear-based monogamy takes the following path: Perhaps you’ve
been looking all your life for a love that you didn’t get from your parents or
whatever. You’re looking for that one person who can fulfill you so that you can
feel safe. Let’s say you get that person and as soon as she’s in your life you
hold onto her. Both of you are clinging to each other because you’re afraid of
taking total self-empowerment. Whatever happens in this life, -there is a
connection between you- but you try to force a connection even though there is
one to begin with. This type of monogamy, based on the fear of being alone or
the fear of AIDS or the fear of anything, will adhere itself to a third-density
model of rela- tionship. In that type of fear-based relationship, you don’t want
to do anything that’s going to trigger a fear, so you’re certainly not going to
tell the truth, whether it’s your true feelings or what you’ve done or whatever.
Then there’s monogamy by choice. This means that you meet someone with whom you
feel a real strong connection and because of that connection, because of your
excitement together, you choose to have a type of relationship that does not
cover up your fears but takes you on another path. That’s monogamy by choice,
which can lead to a fourth-density relationship when there’s no fear involved.
So when we talk about having relationships with each other, give yourself the
opportunity to make conscious choices. Examine what your needs are, what needs
you want met, and see if there’s fear there. If this is something you want to
work on, don’t put your attention on the relationship put your attention on the
fear. If you put attention on those fears within you, whether it’s self-esteem
issues or fear of being alone or whatever, your relationship will become
wonderfully different, very supportive. When a relationship reflects what’s
going on inside, not causing what’s inside, then you have monogamy out of
choice. Be conscious of that; keep checking in to see if it’s fear or
excitement. There is a difference.
Another fourth-density relationship is one that is not monogamous. (Doesn’t mean
they have to be that way; it’s just another choice.) You can have those in third
density, of course, but in third density that type of relationship must be in
third density concepts, so they’re usually secret. How many people on the planet
have had affairs? We have heard one statistic saying that at least 50% of the
married people have secret affairs, half of the population. Obviously you feel
connected with each other. You want to connect with each other, but in a
third-density framework it has to be done in secrecy. In a fourth density
framework there’s a very different point of view. It’s done by conscious choice.
Just so that you are clear about it, we’re not saying that non-monogamous
relationships are the only thing that should exist in fourth density. Conscious
choices in relationships is what will exist in fourth density, based on honesty,
allowing and unconditional love. There are a lot of implications in this. You’ll
work on them as you work on the relationships. It may be a rough ride as you
transition from fear-based to choice-based relationships, but we guarantee that
when you make the shift to choice-based relationships, the sense of empowerment
and freedom you will feel is unlike anything you have felt thus far. Many people
feel that’s a thing to fear because it’s an unknown. But once you feel it, you
won’t understand how you could have been fear-based. It will be as if a weight
is lifted off your shoulders.
Many of you are familiar with some of the information that we’ve channeled to
your plane having to do with relationships and extraterrestrial civilizations.
We like to use the models as an example – not to take you away from the Earth!
but to get you to look at yourselves reflected in these other cultures. The
Pleiadian type of relationship is a wonderful example: It is basically in the
moment. Although they do have monogamy, they call it monogamy-of-the-moment (we
are teasing you a little bit). They have group marriages or group matings. They
have any number of people involved – two, three, four, whatever. Not all of it’s
sexual. Sometimes it’s just like family grouping; maybe they choose to live
together as a mated group and some are not sexual. It really doesn’t matter
whatever goes is really their motto.
The difference between them and you primarily is that they do not see
relationships as a threat in any way. They do not see any issues in
relationships as a threat. Many of you on this Earth see a third person in a
relationship as a threat, even if your spouse’s friend is the same sex and it’s
a nonsexual relationship. The Pleiadians do not have any of this. They feel the
connection with each other so totally that there’s no such thing as an outside
force. They’re all part of one holistic unit. That’s an example of the way your
closest extraterrestrial genetic family member experiences relationships. Sasha,
who has described Pleiadian relationships in her time, comes from approximately
1000 years of evolution beyond you. They had their periods of history just like
yours. They have evolved from a place of turmoil in their relationships to a
place of empowerment, and you are doing the same.
The most important thing to know is what you want. We’re talking about clarity
here: Know what you want, know what will empower you. Then seek to feel
deserving to create that. The key here is the idea of deservability. That’s a
heart quality. And that’s why in this time period as you’re moving from third to
fourth density (third density based in the solar plexus chakra; fourth density
based in the heart chakra) the heart is experiencing all these feelings it
hasn’t felt before. Deservability is really coming up. Many of you are in touch
with those deservability issues. Some of you are not; you don’t even know
they’re there.
From birth on your planet you are conditioned to put other people first, to
sacrifice, to be a martyr; to believe that it’s okay for you to feel pain as
long as somebody else feels better because of it. It has gotten you in trouble
and will continue getting you in trouble until you can see yourself as equal to
all others. All you really ever have is you. Your relationship is with you;
you’ll never get a divorce. This relationship will never end because of death.
It is the only relationship that’s permanent, the only one that really counts.
If you can’t have a relationship with yourself, you cannot have one with anyone
else – and you can’t have one with God, either. You will continue to keep
yourself from God; you will be subservient.
As we all know, that time is ending. A loving relationship with yourself means
empowerment. That is a most important thing, so pay attention to when you make a
sacrifice; when you do, ask yourself why and be very honest with yourself. If
you learn that you’re sacrificing because you don’t want to lose someone’s love,
then let that answer be okay. You don’t have to judge it, thinking you’re
unspiritual. Feel it; know that’s what’s inside, and until that’s let out, you
won’t ever feel the true heart energy, the true love that is there. Let it be
okay. Don’t judge it, and you are well on the road toward healing. Relationship
with yourself is primary. We absolutely guarantee you that when your
relationship with yourself is based on self-trust, self-love and self-respect,
then all the relationships in your life will be based on those qualities. It
cannot be otherwise.
All of you are pioneers because you have chosen to lead mass consciousness
through the shift from solar plexus to the heart – third to fourth density. The
role of the pioneers in your America was one of hardship – not that it had to
be, but sometimes it was. If you feel pain, do not assume you are doing it
wrong. Feel it from the depths of your being and let it go. If you refuse to
feel it, it’s not going away; it will be buried. Is it any wonder that the major
killer is heart disease? What does this reflect? That without that heart energy
to go into fourth density your bodies cannot survive. Is it also any wonder that
another killer is AIDS, where you’re eating yourself up from the inside? Your
immune system is shut down because that energy, that life force, that heart
energy is not coursing through your veins. Those are choices people have made
for themselves and through mass consciousness. Those reflections will not
continue when you learn to love yourselves. They will be a thing of the past.
Comments or questions?
Can you give us an example of a fourth-dimensional conversation? [Laughter]
Fourth density is not linear, so when you speak you have a certain rhythm and
pattern to what you’re communicating. Let’s say that you’re having a really
meaningful conversation and each of you are sharing deep-felt things with the
other person. Let’s say that the first person says, “It’s all about arrival.”
The other person hears that sentence the way he needs to hear it. He interprets
it in that way and responds accordingly. The first person meant arrival as in
coming and going. The person hearing it interprets it as, “It’s all about a
rival.” So he responds based on his interpretation, and the synchronicity of the
conversation is tremendous. Even though the person “misinterpreted” what the
speaker was saying, the exchange is perfect. That is a fourth density
In that both parties receive something from the conversation that is a gift, not
having planned upon that gift?
Exactly. If you had thought A plus B equals C, as you do in third density, you
never would have seen the gift. However, if you go out of that linear thought
and experience a different type of communication and from your excitement answer
back, you create conversation or communication outside of time. Now, in a fourth
density relationship with your friends or your lovers, this happens all the
time. In fourth density the interchange that was just described is in the moment
and there’s no expectation. So in each moment the full meaning on all levels is
Let’s give you a third-density version of this conversation, all right? Let’s
say you are the speaker. You say, “It’s all about arrival” and we say, “A rival?
No, it’s not! I don’t have any rivals!” That’s third-density version. See the
difference? The misunderstanding triggered a fear and anger was expressed
outwardly. So your shifting from third to fourth is about releasing the fear,
releasing the anger and getting hooked into the synchronicity, the heart energy.
It’s about communicating on many different levels that you’re receiving and
sending from already.
Here’s a little homework assignment for you: Pay attention the next week to your
normal communications with people. When you feel yourself lapsing into a fourth
density type of communication, see the different quality that exists between
that and third-density relations. Third density is about reaction: I don’t have
any rival!” Fourth density is about response: “Ah, a rival.” Reaction is usually
based on fear or anger. Response is based on reflection. You’ll see a lot more
changed in communications between yourselves. So do not be surprised.
In some ways there are some blinders that limit your vision. That’s not a major
thing, but it’s what you’ve chosen in this reality. From a bird’s-eye view, what
is happening to all of you is miraculous, astounding and incredibly beautiful.
Have faith and know that what you’re moving toward in your lifetimes will be
unlike anything your planet has experienced in the past. You all have heard
about the light at the end of the tunnel, but you’re not seeing the light yet.
If you can’t see the light, then at least feel the heat. That heat, that warmth,
will guide you. You’re going to feel the heat in the heart, in the chest. Let it
guide you. Know that you’re not taking any wrong turns on the path, and that the
most difficult and challenging relationships you have that are exasperating you
are all part of the miracle that is occurring. We can’t convince you of that; we
can’t give you proof. But you’ll have to feel the heat and guide yourself and
know it is so by looking at the miracles that happen in your own lives.
Can you talk about the third kind of interaction contrasting third and fourth
Ah, you mean like one person?
Oh, fireworks. Whenever you are in a relationship with someone, it’s a
co-created relationship. It’s not like this person’s in third and this person’s
in fourth, and you constantly clash. Instead, the interaction that occurs
between you is part of a dance. When one person is more interested or is
expressing herself in fourth density and the other person is expressing in
third, the communication is the challenge. As we’ve just demonstrated, the
third-density person may totally misunderstand the communication coming from the
fourth-density person and react instead of respond. Any time you react you may
as well put on a blindfold, because you will see only your own loops playing.
It’s very difficult for people to maintain relationships when one operates from
third density and the other operates from a fourth density philosophy. It’s not
impossible, but very difficult, especially around the honesty and secrecy
issues. The fourth-density person is going to be totally honest, and each time
she is, the third-density person is going to feel hurt. The third density person
is going to be secretive, but the fourth-density person, because she is
allowing, doesn’t care one way or another if the other person is being secretive
or not – but that person feels guilt because of it. The dynamics in this
situation are literally endless. If any of you are oriented more to fourth
density and you think your partner is oriented more to third density, there’s
got to be a common thread between you for you to be together. That common thread
is what binds the relationship. It means that in some way you must have at least
a little toe in third density and the other person must have at least a little
toe in fourth density. That’s the bridge.
The critical point of the relationship will be the subject of conscious choice.
That’s going to make it or break it. The fourth-density person will lay out the
choices he wants for himself. The third-density person may or may not lay out
her choices, because she’s fearful. The choices are going to be very different.
It would be very difficult to keep that relationship together. Now, one other
thing we’d like to say. We have used the idea of monogamy as an example, but it
is representative of other things as well.
Let’s say that a third-density person (it’s not that clearcut, but we’re using
it as a model) says, “I consciously choose monogamy. Therefore you, my partner,
must not sleep with anyone.” That is an expression of third density. But wait a
minute – you can make choices only for yourself. You cannot make choices for
another person. You cannot allow your fulfillment to be based on another
person’s actions, otherwise you will be disappointed every time. You can do it,
but you’ll be disappointed. The fourth-density statement would be, “I choose
monogamy for myself. This means that I will not have relations with anyone but
you. I cannot force you to make that choice, but it is a choice I make for
myself.” That pushes a lot of buttons for people. Because the current definition
of monogamy is based on what the other person does. How can you ever be
fulfilled if your fulfillment depends on the other person? Never. When you are
truly integrated, loving yourself, clear in your choices, you can make the
statement, “I choose to be monogamous with you. I don’t feel the need to express
myself with another person” and not feel threatened by the actions of the other
person because you are very secure in your decision. If you still depend on the
other person to fulfill your choice, you will never be fulfilled – bottom line.
You are, in a sense, the product of what you’ve been taught and what your
parents were taught and what their parents were taught. Not every planet goes
through this. It’s simply what’s been passed down – relying on another person
for your own fulfillment. That’s an illusion because you never can truly be
fulfilled by depending on the actions of another. We commend all of you because
you’ve made some very difficult choices as individuals and as a mass
consciousness. Those choices are eventually going to reap the rewards that you
want. It may take some time, but you’re moving along magnificently. We commend
you and admire you.
We now want to talk about what’s going on at this time on your planet. The
channel just returned from Japan, where she talked to many people. You will be
astounded that all over the world people are saying to us the same things: “I
don’t know what it is, but for some reason I’m a lot more emotional than I used
to be. All this stuffs coming up. I don’t know where it’s coming from. I’m
feeling pain and love and all these emotions that I never knew were there. Am I
crazy?” Of course we say “No, you’re not crazy. You are experiencing
fourth-density symptoms.”
Right now, in June of this year and ever since October of last year, but
accelerating since February, there is an energy shift. Some people call it a
time shift; some call it a gateway. There’s a shift, a change, an acceleration.
For those of you who’ve been interested in metaphysics for the last several
years, it’s the most significant shift or change or gateway since the Harmonic
Convergence in 1987. It’s a doorway that’s allowing more energy to come to your
planet than ever before. As this energy comes to your planet, it’s going to
accelerate you. In our estimation, it will begin in late July; the peak is in
August, and you will experience another peak in October. Should you choose to
open to this new energy and go with the flow, you will experience lots of
emotion, both painful and joyous. You’ll experience old stuff coming up that you
had long since thought you’d dealt with. You’ll experience childhood memories
not thought of in years. Take that analogy of the foot falling asleep: You’re
starting to prickle awake now, and as you do you’re remembering what’s inside of
you. You’re bringing up what you don’t want to carry anymore and getting ready
to release it.
After October it will be more difficult or intense to deal with repressed
emotion. Between now and October is the prime time to deal with your repressed
pain and your desire to be more unconditionally loving. Most of all, it is a
prime time to confront your deepest, darkest fears. If you choose to do this
between now and October, the universe is going to be very supportive of you. In
fact, it’s going to throw things in your face to get you through it as fast as
possible. Because if you’re walking through an airport carrying your luggage, it
is easier to walk than it is to run with your luggage. When you accelerate your
vibration, moving faster, the more luggage you’re carrying the more energy it’s
going to take you to get from point A to point B. If you’re not carrying luggage
(or carrying very little), you’ll be able to accelerate yourself very easily
with little pain. It’s up to you.
Consciously seek to confront these fears, your pain, and the transformations
that you want to make within you. Do not shy away from nor blame others for your
state. Then miracles will happen in your life. You’ll go through it quickly,
intensely – but at the same time you’ll feel yourself lightened in a way that
you’ve not felt before. Take advantage of this energy coming to the planet now,
because after October you’re going to be running through that airport. And if
you still have your bags, your energy will be drained and it will be a lot more
difficult to catch your breath. We know each and every one of you, no matter
what your life’s history has been, is totally capable of becoming the
unconditionally loving being that you condition yourself to be in confronting
and processing this fear and pain. You have available all the tools. Do not
despair, do not worry that you’re not strong enough. Nothing that comes to you
would be coming if you weren’t strong enough to deal with it now.
So what kind of changes are going to happen in your physical body We’ll give you
a couple of examples. Anything that is repressed and not dealt with or released
produces symptoms, whether it be colds or any other kind of physical distress.
If in the coming months of the accelerated vibration you choose to hold onto
that stuff and not let it go, your symptoms are going to get worse.
On the flip side, even if you’re in the process of healing this and letting it
go, your symptoms may get worse because it’s a purging. It’s like the idea of
homeopathy, in a sense, you’re introducing something into your vibrational field
and you may feel the symptoms as the toxins are being released. So it’s likely
that in the next months until October your symtomology, your physical body, may
go a little wacko. Do not worry. Question yourself first, though, if it’s from
denial or if it’s from purging and the release of toxicity just so you know
where you are.
Another example is digestive changes. Many of you are already noticing this;
digestive changes are taking place where things you used to be able to eat you
can eat no longer. Things you never thought you would eat, you are now eating.
Your physical body structure is also going to change. The changes are occurring
on a deep cellular level, and as those changes occur your physical body will
adapt to those changes. Those of you who have had spinal troubles are going to
notice structural changes in your body, as if you are literally becoming a new
person. As this stuff is cleared away, you’ll be much more aligned and centered
and without a need to create negative symptomology to give yourself a message.
Some of you may also experience between now and October what you would call
nagging or low-level fevers. If that’s the case, don’t worry. (Of course, we
suggest you engage in whatever belief system you have, whether a doctor or a
nurse or Chinese medicine, to make sure that it’s nothing you need treatment
for.) But know that if it continually happens, it’s a symptom of your body
accelerating itself, getting itself ready for the higher vibration in order to
shake off some of those toxins, like a sweat. You may find it helpful to
participate in sweatlodge ceremonies or use saunas and such. They will be very
useful at this time to help you release on the cellular level a lot of those
Between now and October we would suggest that you be more conscious of your
physical bodies than you’ve ever been. Treat yourself well. If that means get
massages, do that. If that means chiropractic, do that. If that means paying
attention to your diet, do that. However you do it, treat your body well. At the
risk of sounding like a commercial, get plenty of exercise drink lots of water
and get plenty of sleep. Even though that is a cliche, it is very important now,
especially the water (preferably purified or distilled water). That water is
going to be moving out the toxins in your body to get you ready for a new
framework into fourth density. And until the third-density body structure is
cleared, it may be a little bit difficult to shift. So drinking water will help
Could you give a specific example of successfully confronting and releasing a
Ah, good question. We’ve often said the thing you desire the most is often the
thing you fear the most. Let’s say that the deepest fear you have is of being
abandoned by your male. That may even go back to your relationship with your
father or to other lifetimes. The first thing to do is recognize the fear, know
what it is. Write it down in big letters, stick it on your mirror so that you
don’t lapse into the forgetfulness that often comes when the ego is trying to
protect you from pain. After you do that, look at all the ways in your life that
you are trying to protect yourself from that fear. Let’s say you keep tabs on
your husband wherever he goes. Let’s say that you are afraid for him to be in a
room with another woman, so you conveniently don’t go anyplace where there’s
going to be single women. (We’re being a little bit dramatic here.)
Become aware of the games you play that stop you from confronting that fear and
that build a false sense of security around you. Start identifying those things;
then you can feel them. You can start feeling the terror that causes you to act
in a way to control your husband. Already at this point there are going to be
shifts and changes. And those changes are likely to bring more situations your
way to challenge your fear. Let’s say that you have a private detective tailing
your husband. As you start processing this, you start unlocking the energy
you’ve been repressing, so you’re going to draw the fear to you so you can look
at it and process it.
Let’s say that one day the private eye loses your husband, so he has no record
of where your husband has been that day. That may freak you out because there’s
one day where he could have been cheating on you. These things are going to come
up so that you’re actually made to feel more fearful than you’ve ever felt – not
because anything’s going wrong but because something’s actually going right.
You’re opening to the pain, you’re drawing the fear to you to look at it,
confront it and then move through it. Each time you create a situation in your
life like the private eye losing your husband, own the fear, take responsibility
for it, and take responsibility for your actions – not only on an intellectual
level but on an emotional level (even more difficult for some people). Own that
experience, and each time feel as much as you can how much you really don’t want
to live with that fear anymore. See it like a roommate inside of you who leaves
dirty underwear all over the place. You’ve put up with it for a long time but
now you’re starting to realize, “Wait a minute, this is MY place. I don’t want
to share my space with this anymore! It’s too distasteful.”
When you can start wanting to change the fear because it’s too distasteful or
painful to carry it anymore, you are 50% through it. We’re not talking about an
intellectual want like, “Yeah, I wanna get through this but I’m not willing to
open my heart to do it.” It’s wanting, feeling, yearning for life without that
fear, life without that roommate. When you can do that, your entire biochemistry
changes. Your belief patterns change, and once those two things start changing,
you’re drawing to you different things. You may be drawing to you challenging
things, and they may be difficult. But they’re things that will no longer mask
your fear but will cause you to stare it straight in the face. After you get to
that point of no longer wanting to live with that fear, of being so tired of
carrying the fear that you’re willing to let it go, each of you will take your
own individual way of getting through it. If you can get yourself to that point,
you’re going to sail through it, because once you glimpse what it’s like to have
your own place without your roommate, you’ll never want to go back. So get
yourself to glimpse it. We cannot stress to you how different you will feel, how
free you will feel when that roommate no longer ruins your life. It is an
entirely different reality. To some degree, it can be said that third density is
based on fear and fourth density is based on love. When you relinquish fear from
your life, it’s the primary third-density characteristic you’ve relinquished. It
is the anchor you are finally free from. It’s the luggage in the airport you’re
no longer carrying. It’s the key to your freedom. Does that answer?
Yes, thank you.
Comment or question?
Lately, I seem to be viewing things through different eyes. When I speak the
truth, it seems I get very negative and hurtful reactions from people whom I’ve
always been close to or worked with. They rebuff me. How do you adapt when you
want to help or let them know the truth, which is the right way? I end up just
withdrawing and meditating because I feel drained.
This is a difficult one because all of you have people in your lives who are not
on the same path as you. You still love them and want to support them, but you
can’t connect with them the way you want to. Now, it may at first seem like a
dichotomy. and it may be the most fearful thing that you can think of but to
truly heal this you must be 100% willing to let them go and never have them in
your life again. If you can do that, your relationship will be based not on need
but on true freedom and choice.
Whenever humans, whether they’re couples or friends, enmesh themselves with
another human, you lose sight of your boundaries and can no longer tell whose
reality is what. You then can no longer express yourself cleanly because of that
enmeshment. We know it causes you pain. However, in the long run, as you have
already discovered, withholding your true self also causes pain. The only answer
is to let go and let it be all right for them not to be in your life. That
doesn’t mean they are going to be gone; it’s simply an energy dynamic that’s
going to shift within you. When you can let it be okay if that that person’s no
longer in your life, then they are free to be who they are and you are free to
be who you are. You are both free to interact on the common ground between you.
When people are enmeshed, you don’t even know where the common ground is. You
cannot see it. But if each of you are what we call sovereign, or self-empowered,
and express yourself from that without a need for the other person, the common
ground is apparent. When any of you let go of anyone in your mind and your
heart, you let them be who they naturally are, and the love you can then share
is profound beyond words. You cannot experience that kind of Love through need
or enmeshment but only through allowance and sovereignty. Allow yourself to ask
– all choices being equal – what’s more important? Having them in your life at
all costs, even at the cost of your integrity, pretending you are someone
different to have them in your life; or speaking your truth and always causing
conflict; or energetically releasing them, letting them go so that your bond is
a bond of integration rather than conflict. Different choices, all of them
equal. Make your choice a conscious one.
Does that apply to letting go of your children?
Yes, yes, yes.
The small ones?
It applies to letting go of your children in the sense that it’s okay if they do
not become who you want them to be. If they grow up to be extensions of you,
they are not free to discover who they are and you are not free to discover who
you are. The conflict that occurs between you is because you cannot find common
ground. You can’t communicate. In civilizations like the Pleiadian civilization,
when children come into the world the parents are not bonded with them out of
fear or need. They are sentient beings who need caretaking, but from the day of
birth they are individuals, not owned by the parents. They are not looked after
and possessed by the parent, but a part of the community. They are also
themselves. When the children grow up, they have strong self-identities and
strong ties to their parents and their society because the ties were not forced
upon them. They were allowed the choice of bonding or not bonding, and whenever
you are given that choice, as long as there is compatible vibration, you will
always bond. But if you are forced to bond, you will invariably pull away.
That’s the nature of humankind. Letting your children go does not mean packing
up their little bags and sending them on their way. It means energetically
letting go of the desire for them to fulfill what you need.
Many parents have children because they need a companion or because they need
someone to make their empty life complete. Imagine the burden that the child
feels who comes into a life like that. And imagine the feeling of a parent who
is never ultimately satisfied by that relationship but can’t let it go, either.
You are all at this point now of being extremely conscious of what you’re doing
with your children and of what you’re doing in your society. It’s only been
since the ’60’s – 30 years – that’s not a long time in the history of mankind –
where you’ve awakened from the shell that you’ve been in. And anyone who’s been
in a shell for a long time, not willing to look at things, is little tender when
he comes out. That’s what you’re feeling.
You have seen on television your models of the perfect family, like Beaver. Pain
covered over nice, false smiles on the face. Children must be good, they don’t
take drugs, they don’t steal, they don’t lie. No, they repress their emotion and
grow up to be psychotic. A choice equal to any other but now you’re teaching
your children to feel and you’re beginning to teach them sovereignty, or
individuality. You’re just beginning. Any of you who have children actively in
your life, recognize if there’s any part of you that needs them for fulfillment.
Be aware of that and see where that awareness takes you. Your children also come
into the world being taught, not by you but by your society, to need the parent
for fulfillment also. So it’s a two-way street. That is dissolving, and
tremendous freedom comes from that. Comment or question?
If one is working around people who seem stressful with these new energies, will
it become easier to detach from their stress?
Many of you are having trouble with that now. Each person has a choice about
whether you want to make third-density or fourth-density choices. If you make
third-density choices, then a certain reality structure surrounds you. If you
choose fourth, a different reality structure is in place.
You’re finding now that the time of separation is coming near. It’s not that
those of you who choose fourth density are going to float into some other
etheric realm and leave everyone else behind, but that your realities are simply
going to restructure themselves so that you have fewer and fewer people in your
life who operate from third density principles. Either that or they will really
recede into the background of your life. You’ll be aware of them like a TV on in
the next room, but they won’t distract you.
For the time being, when you’re trying to shift from third to fourth and you’ve
got one foot in each, you’re still hearing the clamor over here and reaching for
the light. It can be very stressful. But that will change as you change. It’s
not anything out here that’s going to change, but YOU. As you change, you are
going to be changing that dynamic and how you perceive it. Comment or question?
What is happening between what might be termed lifemates now as we move into
fourth density?
It depends on the specific lifemate. Lifemates who are committed to personal
growth will experience through that relationship tremendous growth, tremendous
shifts. In a lifemate relationship if the top priority is not personal growth,
and safety or keeping the relationship intact are put before growth, chances are
the relationship will not stay intact. So it’s really dependent on the specific
individual. Those whose number one priority is personal growth are going to find
mirrored in their mate and also within themselves a wellspring of information,
growth and, in a sense, Christ energy coming from the unconditional love/heart
energy that you’ve not really tapped into yet. And if these lifemates choose a
fourth density expression based on honesty rather than secrecy, unconditional
love and allowance instead of control, the potential of that relationship and
the relationship each individual person has to the world is limitless and
endless, and will be almost alien to what you know now.
If those are the choices you make and you are truly acting on fourth density
choices and are in a partnership, be prepared that what you will create may be
alien to what you know now. Let that be okay, because there’s nobody breaking
ground in front of you. You’re the groundbreakers; you’re going into new
territory. It might as well be another planet. You can’t recognize it, there’s
no familiar object. Sometimes you may scratch your head and say, “Is this where
I’m supposed to be? Did I take a wrong turn?” That’s because you can’t identify
landmarks. There’s nothing familiar. Know that in all probability this will
happen. So when you’re confused and you can’t identify landmarks, remember it’s
the groundbreaking. Remember that there’s no one in front of you leaving a
trail. So if it’s alien, it’s all right. Just keep going.
Those of you who are lifemates choosing a third-density expression, it’s likely
your relationships could go on the way they always have, with secrecy and
control and all of that until you die. That’s one option. Not very much fun, but
if it’s what you choose, then so be it. Most likely, however, is that if the
lifemates continue to choose third density ideas, the relationship will end.
Even if it keeps going, it may not be such of an enjoyable ride.
So the most important thing for those of you who have lifemates, helpmates,
friends, is to define your intentions, your motivations for the relationship,
truthfully, on a very deep level. If you find that the relationship is primarily
there to keep you safe, to keep you feeling secure, to keep you feeling value,
understand it, but know what comes with that. The happiness that you seek does
not come with it, only illusion. So it’s really up to you. Lifemates have a very
challenging time, but that challenge can also bear much fruit, depending on the
choices you make. Does that answer?
Yes, thank you.
Anyone else?
How do you envision intentional communities of fourth-density people getting
Again, the Pleiadian civilization is genetically tied to you, energetically tied
to you, spiritually tied to you. So they represent a similar way that you will
evolve. We don’t envision one way that you will manifest these types of
communities. We envision that you will do it in many different ways. Some may
actually come about through anger, as strange as this sounds. You may get a
group of people who are angry at society, and because of that anger reject
society and build their own community. Some communities may be founded on anger
and separation like this and then may evolve into the unconditionally loving
fourth-density experiences later on. The initial anger and rejection of society
was necessary to stimulate the action of building the foundation so that the
fourth density could evolve upon it. Do you understand what we mean by that?
That’s one option, and it’s already happening. Another option in a totally
opposite direction is a group of people who are into “Light and Love,” no
substance, floating-in-the-clouds idea, and they may think it’s really nice to
have a community like this. It won’t be that grounded, but they’ll do it; then
that will shift into the fourth density idea. It’s the same situation where they
will lay the foundation for later generations to build upon.
There will also be some visionaries, people compelled to live a certain way and
not know why. They just have to create this and move forward without really
having a future vision of what it’s going to be. Those communities will start
with the fourth-density framework earlier (because the builders will not yet get
caught in their vision), but will stay in the moment. That is another common
We perceive your planet will take the form of the Pleiadian civilization –
again, these are just probabilities. This means that you will have community
environments and you will also have people living alone. There will be
everything, so whatever type of experience you want, you have an opportunity to
have. That’s pretty much unique in terms of your galactic family and other
civilizations. Often planets are very homogeneous, and their civilizations take
the same steps in their evolutionary path. You are all so diverse that you’re
actually going to be creating an evolutionary path through diversity. So there’s
going to be many, many different ways to do things, which all will eventually
create the same goal.
One other possibility we see is somewhat probable. Ecologically, your planetary
system may get worse and worse, overcrowding, etc. You may create these types of
communities in order to adapt to stressful circumstances in the environment. We
perceive it is likely you will begin to build communities before you actually
need them. If your planet’s very reluctant to change, it’s possible that you
won’t create these communities until it’s almost too late, until you must have
an immediate solution. It’s not highly probable. Does that answer, or was there
something more specific you wanted?
No, I wanted an overall picture and you gave it, thank you.
You’re welcome. Anyone else?
Is there anything you’d like to say tonight about the ener- gies of today?
We would say that both the solstice today and the equinox in the fall are very
powerful times of transformation. Today’s solstice is also synchronized with
Fathers Day. We perceive the significance is that for a period of time between
now and the end of September, the male energy is needed in all of you so that
you will take action to confront the things that you want to confront and move
through the things you want to move through before October. Today is the gateway
for the male energy. We’re not talking about unbalanced male energy or
patriarchy, but about the male warrior energy, the action energy. Today a
doorway is opening for that energy between now and the equinox. During this time
you will be supported by the universe, by this male energy, to be the warrior
within and to tackle your challenges with spear in hand, screaming into the
forest, and rescuing all of the locked-up things you have within you.
Characteristic of the solstice today is that the masculine energy between now
and the equinox – and in terms of the topic for tonight all of you seeking
balanced integrated relationships can call upon the masculine energy within you
to take action to create the type of relationships you want. Many of you are
passive about creating relationships. You let yourself just fall into it. Many
women are taught that the man handles everything, that they lead the way and you
just follow; and some men do just the opposite. But it’s the time now for that
masculine energy in relationships to get you to consciously make your choice and
to put that choice into action, whether action is communication or actual
physical movement. Between now and the equinox, action is the key, that male
energy. Get out the loincloth and really go for it!
At this time we would like to thank all of you for the wonderful conversation
we’ve had with you. We would also like to thank you for being humanity’s
pioneers. As you know, in any age those pioneers are needed. You have not fallen
here accidentally; you have all chosen to be pioneers, and with all gratitude
and all respect we thank you for the position that you’ve chosen, we thank you
for your guiding lights. We tell you without a shadow of a doubt that the world
that all of you are trying to create is just around the corner. Keep on plugging
away, enjoying yourself, loving yourself. Never shy away from growth, and you
will see the light at the end of the tunnel and feel it and become part of it.
Our love to you. Happy dreams, happy lives. Good day.